This part of the process of getting a book out………this part has me a little perplexed. I loved the writing and editing and cover design part. The publishing part was a lengthy challenge but not terrible, just required some “stay the course” fortitude for months. But this part….the marketing and introducing the first book to others is not my forte. I love social interaction, yet at the same time, recoil from it inwardly because I am an introvert by nature and an INFJ. I’m proud of accomplishing this goal but at the same time, I don’t want others to think I am too proud or too haughty.
Balance, how to find the proper balance……..
Thus far, I have been surprised by two things in the release of Searching for Fire. The first, is the overwhelming love and support and enthusiasm from friends, neighbors, co-workers, and especially family. I have been very pleasantly overwhelmed by the encouragement on social media and at places I run into people from my community. Many people said congratulations and other phrases of positivity. Many people have also lent their wisdom and suggestions which I appreciate dearly. Many people have helped me out. Many people have simply been fantastic and loving and kind. My first review on Amazon even came from a very unlikely source who gave me four stars and for which I am very grateful she was so generous. Her good review was totally unexpected and unsolicited.
Then, the other surprise………there have been a few odd moments along the way. These occurred just about three times in the course of a few weeks when someone would throw a barb or caustic comment casually my way, especially statements about “my ego”. Usually they were intended as jokes for everyone but it made me uncomfortable like I was being put in my place. It threw me for a sudden loop and I found myself over and over trying to alter the person’s perception by being super humble and self-deprecating about the whole book thing as if it ashamed me to be perceived too bold or uppity.
It’s hard to handle criticism.
For fifty people that said congratulations, those few other comments are the ones that keep staying fresh in my mind. They replay over and over. How do people handle this kind of behavior? I’m essentially an independent author so the majority of the marketing and promoting is on me but at the same time……..how do you balance promoting effectively to minimize negative perception? What experiences have you had that perplexed you too?
Author: J. Speer
I like to write. I have 5 books currently on Amazon, mostly fiction. I try to write positive and uplifting children's stories, expressive poetry for women, and interesting articles about personal growth, alternative medicine, and spirituality. My stories are often about diverse people but with human connection in mind through inner perspective. I love my characters especially the ones from my first book, Searching for Fire.
I moved recently to Vermont. I live in the North Country region near Lake Willoughby, one of the most beautiful places I have ever seen. My heart will always be with Kansas but I love travel and meeting new people with diverse perspectives on life. I have found Vermonters to have many admirable qualities like stoicism and a love and stewardship of nature.
My hobbies are writing, gardening, outdoor activities like kayaking, fishing, and hiking. I am an amateur herbalist. Many years ago, an alternative medicine doctor cured me of a respiratory illness by teaching me about vitamins and for that, I owe her a debt of gratitude.
I recently bought a Jeep Wrangler that fits my personality and love for adventure. Associated with the military in my younger years, I have lived in Israel, Germany, and Virginia as well - all of which I loved in different ways. I thoroughly believe in the military spouse phrase, "bloom where you are planted" and endeavor to carry a positive optimism wherever I roam. Most days are good but admittedly I get down sometimes. I am prone to sadness or severe cynicism at times, so I turn to music as my consolation and source of expression or inspiration. My favorite songs currently are "How Deep is Your Love" by the Beegees, "La Vie en Rose", "A Million Dreams" or maybe Karen Carpenter singing "Close to You" or Elton John singing "Your Song." I also like "Nothing's Gonna Stop Us" by Starship or "I'll Stand by You" by The Pretenders. "Faithfully" by Journey always reminds me of rollerskating with friends in the 1980s.
My favorite quotes are from the Velveteen Rabbit, Steve Jobs, and this one..."To the caterpillar it was the end of the world, but to the butterfly it was merely a beautiful beginning." Or there is the quote from Peter Pan teaching Wendy..."What if I fall? But, oh my darling, what if you fly?"
I also believe in being a pearl - graceful on the outside but full of grit and gratitude on the inside. My favorite women of the Bible are Ruth, Hannah, and Hagar.
Thanks for stopping by my blog. Cheers, friend.
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