This part of the process of getting a book out………this part has me a little perplexed. I loved the writing and editing and cover design part. The publishing part was a lengthy challenge but not terrible, just required some “stay the course” fortitude for months. But this part….the marketing and introducing the first book to others is not my forte. I love social interaction, yet at the same time, recoil from it inwardly because I am an introvert by nature and an INFJ. I’m proud of accomplishing this goal but at the same time, I don’t want others to think I am too proud or too haughty.
Balance, how to find the proper balance……..
Thus far, I have been surprised by two things in the release of Searching for Fire. The first, is the overwhelming love and support and enthusiasm from friends, neighbors, co-workers, and especially family. I have been very pleasantly overwhelmed by the encouragement on social media and at places I run into people from my community. Many people said congratulations and other phrases of positivity. Many people have also lent their wisdom and suggestions which I appreciate dearly. Many people have helped me out. Many people have simply been fantastic and loving and kind. My first review on Amazon even came from a very unlikely source who gave me four stars and for which I am very grateful she was so generous. Her good review was totally unexpected and unsolicited.
Then, the other surprise………there have been a few odd moments along the way. These occurred just about three times in the course of a few weeks when someone would throw a barb or caustic comment casually my way, especially statements about “my ego”. Usually they were intended as jokes for everyone but it made me uncomfortable like I was being put in my place. It threw me for a sudden loop and I found myself over and over trying to alter the person’s perception by being super humble and self-deprecating about the whole book thing as if it ashamed me to be perceived too bold or uppity.
It’s hard to handle criticism.
For fifty people that said congratulations, those few other comments are the ones that keep staying fresh in my mind. They replay over and over. How do people handle this kind of behavior? I’m essentially an independent author so the majority of the marketing and promoting is on me but at the same time……..how do you balance promoting effectively to minimize negative perception? What experiences have you had that perplexed you too?